Marital Rape- who should be prosecuted in reality in such a case

yesterday while watching TV came across a discussion on marital rape , hope you can view a part of it here

http://ibnlive.in.com/cnnibnshow/Face-the-Nation/371071.html

during the discussion what caught my attention was a comment – logic given by a feminist speaker which went like : “many times girl is not consenting to marriage and has to face marital rape by husband later on. marriage is not a license for sex blah blah” .

on closer examination of this statement we can see that :

there are 3 parties to a marriage where the consent by  girl is not given

(a) the Girl – future victim  – possible suffering.

(b) Husband – future accused – heavy suffering

(c) family/parents of girl who take forcible consent of girl : relieved of getting rid of daughter and her financial responsibilities.-  no punishment – no suffering.

The girl forced into consent for marriage may not be ready as well as not desirous of a physical relationship with husband- can lead to trauma.

but is she the real victim in such a case ?

Absolutely no.

The real victim in such case is husband.

a man who has been conned into a relationship is all set for a shock . there is no doubt that sex is a vital part of any marriage accross the world, thats why denial of conjugal rights or absence of conjugal relationships is a ground for divorce.

so if a man finds him such a situation –

should he treat the abla wife as sister, remarry her by giving away his assets ?

should try to assert his right and be booked for rape ?

take up the matter with family of wife and as a result find himself trapped in 498a ?

It will be the man who has been exposed to a fraud by family of wife so why should he suffer ?

why the feminists always ask punishment for men, why they dont ask punishment for the person who promotes crime which in this case would be parents of the girl.

should have been better if she had said if man tried to create physical relations with such a wife be stopped and the parents who forcibly take consent of marriage from their daughters be booked for criminal conspiracy and gang rape.

while the man should be given compensation for the harassment he has suffered.

by the way if anyone knows the conviction rate worldwide for marital rape kindly tell.

Men – its time to take an affidavit from the girl in presence of gazetted officer before entering into marriage that she is wilfully entering into marriage and knows what are her obligations as a wife.

ask relief for the victim, men can be victims in many cases ,accept this.

Promote laws which can prevent crime, punish the guilty not the ones which have a chance for gross misuse. any gun without a safety lock is a danger.

may we all live in peace – men and women.

may we seek justice for citizens and not limit us to just saying – city not safe for women when men also are being exposed to murders,looting daily.

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