sensitivity towards women or towards victim ?

last few days there have several instances where over and over again it has been said that system – police and judicial system should be sensitized to women issues. in a situation where even apex court has agreed that some women are misusing laws to harass other men, women, elders I wonder if we should say ; the system should be sensitized towards the sufferer, the victim.

The judiciary since ages has been respected for just one thing – delivering justice to victim in an impartial way, should it not be left out of political and feminist motives  and remain true to the basics of law and justice so as to preserve its divine image ?


A male can be victim  at hands of  female – can he expect justice  in a system where as soon as a male is exposed to misuse of law the first thing he is told is – system is partial towards / tilted in favour of women complainants. this starts from police station , lawyers office and the court complex itself though I have not come across any Judge who said it openly in my face.

think: does it enhance the image of judiciary ? does it help in eradication of crime or eradication of misuse of law – does it help in making a better society ?

In our society who holds the responsibility of  assuring a male  entangled in gender based litigation including divorce, domestic violence and dowry related cases that he can look forward to a fair impartial trial and that judicial system is not gender sensitive but victim sensitive  , is it the government  or law enforcement agencies like police, media , NGOs or the Judiciary itself  through words and actions ?

And even despite such views/ conditions if a male fights back and wins should he not be rewarded  for showing faith in judicial system and not giving in to pressure for an out of court settlement ? should the woman who misuses law be not punished ?

me thinking- you also think.

kindly share views.


Marital Rape- who should be prosecuted in reality in such a case

yesterday while watching TV came across a discussion on marital rape , hope you can view a part of it here

during the discussion what caught my attention was a comment – logic given by a feminist speaker which went like : “many times girl is not consenting to marriage and has to face marital rape by husband later on. marriage is not a license for sex blah blah” .

on closer examination of this statement we can see that :

there are 3 parties to a marriage where the consent by  girl is not given

(a) the Girl – future victim  – possible suffering.

(b) Husband – future accused – heavy suffering

(c) family/parents of girl who take forcible consent of girl : relieved of getting rid of daughter and her financial responsibilities.-  no punishment – no suffering.

The girl forced into consent for marriage may not be ready as well as not desirous of a physical relationship with husband- can lead to trauma.

but is she the real victim in such a case ?

Absolutely no.

The real victim in such case is husband.

a man who has been conned into a relationship is all set for a shock . there is no doubt that sex is a vital part of any marriage accross the world, thats why denial of conjugal rights or absence of conjugal relationships is a ground for divorce.

so if a man finds him such a situation –

should he treat the abla wife as sister, remarry her by giving away his assets ?

should try to assert his right and be booked for rape ?

take up the matter with family of wife and as a result find himself trapped in 498a ?

It will be the man who has been exposed to a fraud by family of wife so why should he suffer ?

why the feminists always ask punishment for men, why they dont ask punishment for the person who promotes crime which in this case would be parents of the girl.

should have been better if she had said if man tried to create physical relations with such a wife be stopped and the parents who forcibly take consent of marriage from their daughters be booked for criminal conspiracy and gang rape.

while the man should be given compensation for the harassment he has suffered.

by the way if anyone knows the conviction rate worldwide for marital rape kindly tell.

Men – its time to take an affidavit from the girl in presence of gazetted officer before entering into marriage that she is wilfully entering into marriage and knows what are her obligations as a wife.

ask relief for the victim, men can be victims in many cases ,accept this.

Promote laws which can prevent crime, punish the guilty not the ones which have a chance for gross misuse. any gun without a safety lock is a danger.

may we all live in peace – men and women.

may we seek justice for citizens and not limit us to just saying – city not safe for women when men also are being exposed to murders,looting daily.

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